You are Sexier than you think:
Have you ever noticed that it is difficult to enjoy really great sex when you feel utterly unsexy? This is especially true for women. Scientists say that the human female, is the only species that gets aroused by her own pheromones. That’s just great. (or a little weird.) What it means to our sex life is that it helps to be in touch with our sexiness in order to enjoy it.
People laugh when they call my cell phone and hear the song, “I’m Sexy and I Know It.” (Well everyone laughs but my mother. She thinks it’s awful.) The point is that I want people to lighten up and tell themselves, “Hey, I AM sexy!”
Very often in our roles as wives, moms and money-earners, we don’t feel sexy. How can we build marriage intimacy – sex and erotic closeness when we feel frumpy? Or what if we just feel busy? Sometimes we feel overwhelmed. Sometimes we feel fat. Sometimes we feel afraid. Sometimes we feel stressed, tired and frustrated. In those moments, husbands, beware.
But what if we don’t want our husbands to always have to “beware?” What if we are tired of always being tired? How can we tap into our sexy side? And what’s the point of it anyway?
Well, the point, isn’t just “so you can have sex.” The point is to flow with the River of Life and abundance that is yours to enjoy. The point is to tap into love in all it’s forms: friendly and endearing, completely unselfish, and yes, erotic.
That love is so supernatural. It’s empowering. It’s transforming. It takes a stressed-out mom and makes her a joyful mother of children. It takes an agitated wife and makes her a queen in her castle. It takes a struggling entrepreneur and makes her a money magnet. It’s not just about sex. It’s about being sexy: beautiful, confident and flowing with creative, loving energy. That state of mind glorifies the Creator.
Okay, so how?
1. Let go of all the judgments and define beauty on your own terms.
Stop buying into the media’s or anyone else’s story of what’s beautiful. You are perfectly beautiful and lovely right now. Let your outward appearance reflect it.
2. Let go of resentment towards other people (especially the dude that climbs into bed with you.)
Yes, your feelings towards him are probably valid. And remarkably, he has feelings too. When you learn to remove the resentment and listen to each other on an emotional level, compassion often rises up where anger was before. Believe it or not, compassion towards your mate is sexually empowering.
3. Change your self-talk
Instead of telling yourself how busy, stressed and overwhelmed you are. Start saying how rich you are. (If you are reading this on a computer and you have change in your car ashtray, you are richer than 90% of the people on this planet!)
You are also rich in love, rich in talent, rich in resources. Everything in the whole world that you need to be happy, successful and spiritually connected to God is already yours. Where then is lack? It’s in your imagination!
4. Seek pleasure and expect it.
You were made for pleasure. God “richly gives us all things to enjoy.” What we focus on expands, so focus on things that look, sound, taste, smell and feel amazing. Gratitude and power will rise up.
Your sex life was designed to bring bonding and pleasure. You have a clitoris with some 6,000 nerve endings all concentrated in a small place for no other reason than pleasure. That means you can fully, enjoy the naked, erotic connection with your man. Not only do you deserve to feel great, you were designed for it.
You are sexier than you think. Right now. Let your love life be a natural outflow of a life lived in love and abundance. You’ll be glad you did.
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Gina Parris is an international speaker, performance coach, wife, mother of four, and a champion for the Sexy Marriage. She is dedicated to helping people heal their sexual and relational issues. Throughout the past 28 years, Gina has served on staff of several large churches and encouraged thousands of people -privately, in groups, through television, radio and other media. She also speaks to organizations on topics dealing with home and work balance. Gina combines the best of Sports Psychology, Energy Therapy and Biblical promises to help people enjoy a Love Life marked by victory.