Why I’m Talking About Love and *gasp* Sex

by Gina Parris

“When you get to my age, you’ll measure your success in life by how many of the people you want to have love you actually do love you. That’s the ultimate test of how you’ve lived your life.” -Warren Buffet

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This blog is a collection of thoughts from me, Gina Parris – Peak Performance coach. I love to talk about success and life and business and how all of the above can take lessons from the world of sport.

Except for the sport of Love. It doesn’t really fit here, does it? I have wrestled back and forth about this for over a year. I have not blogged at all about romance – as it is way to ‘MUSHY’ for many of my readers.  It has little to do with making money (on the surface), and after all, “romance” is not my main niche.

So, I have to come clean. Love is what I care most about in this whole world. No, not just sex,  but the love that has come as a RESULT of a lot of effort and time towards those closest to me.  Sometimes I do it terribly.  Sometimes it was my last priority.

In the month of February, it seems plausible to fit Romance, Love, and all its derivatives into all aspects of life as we celebrate Valentine’s Day, a day dreaded by many people.

So I’m taking this moment to tell you that Peak Performance for me this year is starting from the inside out. I mean INSIDE: Inside those private thoughts and relationships that deserve to be private  and PLEASURABLE. How can we keep the flames hot  in a busy, busy world? In a few more days I will let you know about a program called The Romance Rescue. (Yeah, its about sex.)

Why on earth would I go there? Because I know what its like to work hard in the marketplace only to come to bed and find anguish, hurt, and frustration.

I know what it’s like to look like a success on the outside, and wonder if I’ve created the end of the relationship that means the most to me.  In a few weeks I’ll celebrate 20 years of marriage.  Looking at how far we have come makes me willing to embarrass myself, to be misunderstood, to giggle too much, or to cry in public in hopes that someone else can turn their pain into pleasure, like we have.  It’s a remarkably personal story.

I don’t know if I’ll blog weekly about love or not. I have people telling me “Don’t do it!” And people telling me to “go for it.”  If I do, it will probably be just on Wednesdays. Why Wednesdays? I have no idea, except that those who can’t relate can avoid me on that day!

What I do know is that in the end I agree with my hero Warren Buffet. At my age, (God knows I’m no teenager) you end up measuring your success by whether or not those you love the most love you back.

It’s a good month for the game of love. I’m choosing to play hard – and win it, for the long haul.  If you want to join me, you will be completely safe in my space.

Until next time – keep doing the small stuff – with big love!

In your corner,

Gina Signature


P.S. If you can’t stand it and you want a sneak peak at what I’m cooking up, you can check out www.TheRomanceRescue.com and get a free audio. I have more free goodies coming over there.

Please comment and try to be nice. I’m really stretching myself here! Just kidding. I can take it….sort of.  I’d love to hear your thoughts on love and success.

Gina Parris is an international speaker, performance coach, wife, mother of four, and a champion for the Sexy Marriage. She is dedicated to helping people heal their sexual and relational issues. Throughout the past 28 years, Gina has served on staff of several large churches and encouraged thousands of people -privately, in groups, through television, radio and other media. She also speaks to organizations on topics dealing with home and work balance. Gina combines the best of Sports Psychology, Energy Therapy and Biblical promises to help people enjoy a Love Life marked by victory.

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  • Gina,
    You hit the nail on the head with your thoughts on the importance of “love.” Looking back in my own professional life I see with clarity (hindsight is always clear) the moments when my professional career took an uptick; when key life-changing decisions were made and when empathy and compassion were the right leadership tools – all of which are keyed to my relationship with my bride of 11 years.

    So it isn't a stretch, its the truth.

    • Thank you Christopher! It does come back to love, doesn't it? I'm so happy you have a marriage that you're celebrating.

  • Gina,

    You never cease to amaze me. I appreciate your zeal (love) for life and your transparency to share.



    • Oh yeah, not much mystery here in my corner! Thanks so much for sharing our encouragement.

  • jmsteele

    Gina, hooray for you for venturing into this territory! If anyone can navigate this subject it's you and I'm being totally honest. #noflattery 🙂 After your radio interview the other day and just knowing you, I'm really looking forward to your words of wisdom. And what's even better is that I know it's not just words- you live what you say (well, I know you're human- but still..) You are my true hero and I just have to say that you've already affected my marriage for good. My hat is off to you, Rockstar! Keep up the good work!

    • Well thanks J! You inspired me to actually listen to that interview, which I'm doing right now. Great. Let's hear it for great marriages.

  • Gina I look forward to this subject, I truly believe you get what you put out (and I’m not talking about sex) if you show people love they usually return it and expand on it.
    I let someone into my life that I thought truly cared about me, went into business and after 9 years found out not only did she not care about me but didn’t care what she did to my family.No one messes with the family Cardinal Rule.
    See you in the tweeps.

  • paulttran

    EWWW! Sex! *covering ears and hiding in the closet*

    I think that romance is a very big contributor to success in business! I believe that behind every good man there's a strong woman, and vice versa. It's love that either drives you to try harder, it's also a deterrent from focusing on what you're supposed to do. I'm glad you're incorporating this subject into Peak Performance, because it's a big player, and many workaholics forget why they're working hard sometimes, and lose their way.

    I'm looking forward to your topic of sex….and lots of it! =)

  • tmischler

    Gina ~ this is a beautiful expression of your soul. Thank you for sharing. I've been all those things too and it's always comforting to know us driven women struggle with focus and attention where it matter most sometimes. I'm celebrating 5 years with hubby in 2 weeks and this post hit home. Will be waiting for “Wednesday” to roll around soon!

    • Great! Thank you for sharing that, and congratulations of 5 years of marriage! So much pulling for our attention. I appreciate your thoughts.

  • Gina,
    Thank you for taking on such an important topic! I think sometimes we only treat love and romance as afterthoughts, not as part of our every day! You are tackling an important topic; I admire you and support you as you jump into this new direction! You have a successful track record and I am looking forward to your posts! Thank you for sharing Gina!


  • See Gina, I knew people would love to hear what you have to say! I know I've said it before but it bears repeating, I'm so excited to have you enter this arena with me! Both my followers and myself are looking forward to your insight. 🙂

    • Thanks Rachel, that means so much! I will totally keep you posted.

  • You are so awesome Gina. I am proud of you for having the courage to ‘go there.’ I’m not married yet, but I have my share of girlfriends (many of them married and older), and I’ve seen the tears, broken hearts, and hurts a loveless, passionless marriage can yield. Thank you for speaking up on behalf of everyone who desperately needs to hear your message of hope. I can’t wait to see where you go with this. Play to win sis. Keep shining.

    • Thank you Rochelle! I pray that everyone who reads this will forward it to someone who they know would benefit from it. We'll just keep going till people find out that joy is available.

  • tailwags

    Love is the highest energy vibration there is, so when you can get this part of your life in order, it will spill into all the other areas. I think it's great that you're diving into love and sex. 😉

    • Thank you so much for the encouragement. It's amazing how stepping out beyond the discomfort level makes us choose to forget about ourselves and focus on those who need a miracle.

  • Thank you so much for the encouragement. It's amazing how stepping out beyond the discomfort level makes us choose to forget about ourselves and focus on those who need a miracle.

  • LOVE it Gina! 🙂 One of my favorite sayings by anonymous: “Only one life which soon is past, only what's done with love will last”. Thanks for posting this seemingly incongruent post; to the contrary, this is so important to not just athletes, but to everyone! I will tell you that some of my best performances on the golf course, were when I was feeling LOVED and APPRECIATED…hmmm!

    • Doctor Scott! Thanks for stopping by and chiming in. Those are great words. I am considering coming to Dallas in December to hang out with you and some of our mutual friends!

  • Kenneth

    Keep posting about and romance! Please discuss your romance emotions, while your husband is being deployed.

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