Fearless Goal Setting

Have you ever set a goal and immediately given up it because it seemed too big for you, too grand, or too impossible? Some goals don't inspire our necessary action because they are too daunting. Others are too boring. How do we set a goal in the first place? How do we know where we are going?

In response to this series on  "Going Fearless," this comment came in from one of our readers. This is what Steve Borgman says,

"I like this series of posts, Gina.  I would agree that knowing where we are going is part of the equation.  But the other part of the equation is pushing through fear to create a destination that truly stretches us.  Sometimes we have limiting beliefs about ourselves, our abilities, and our worth.  That's what I am always working on :)"

Now, Steve is actually a pretty inspiring fellow himself, but I was completely struck by his honesty. He is talking about knowing where we are going, or setting the right goal even with our self-doubts. Can you relate to his observation too? I sure can!

At the risk of sounding pithy, lets create a four step formula for fearless goal setting. 

1. Permission to Dream!

At this point, all you're doing is dreaming. Give yourself permission to finish this sentence, "Wouldn't it be nice if…."  

Choose to silence the voices that say it's impossible, or that you are unworthy.  Just start with things that genuinely interest YOU. If you are honest with your desires, than you will find dreams that are unique to you. Ask, what would you want your life to really look like if you had no limits?

I know a top real estate broker who says in the beginning before he even had his real estate license he would look at the loveliest houses in his town and say, "Wouldn't it be nice to be the one listing and selling these big homes?"  

You too, can take off all the pressure and create a goal by starting with a dream.

2. Pal Around With People Who DO.

So many of our limiting beliefs come from the people around us. Their limits become our limits.  In contrast, there is amazing power in having real friends who have already accomplished your dreams. When you become friends with achievers, you eventually find some people who are no different than you! You start to say, "Wow, if they can do it, I can do it for sure!"

How do you meet these people? Join the associations and clubs where they congregate. Don't worry – you WILL fit in just fine. You have a common bond already by your interests.

3. Plan For Small Victories

Let's say you have a dream to run the Boston Marathon, but you are currently overweight and out of shape.  It would be easy to give up on that dream because it is so big. But you could find another very committed friend and plan to run a 5K in a few months. Just finishing that run will be a victory and start feeding your fearless and victorious self-image. That will naturally lead to fearless goal setting towards bigger and bigger dreams.

4. Praise Your Progress

The beauty of goal-setting and getting, is not just in the finished goal. The exciting thing is seeing the person you become along the way. You can feel great now, as if your goal is already accomplished, by celebrating each tiny step you take towards its fulfillment.  Praise is empowering. Progress is fulfilling. Acknowledge your progress, even in the small things, and soon you'll achieve dreams that seemed impossible.

I would love to help you accomplish your goals and eliminate the limiting beliefs that are holding you back. For just a short time you can save 200 dollars by booking a strategy session with me at this link: MEET WITH GINA

Until next time, keep playing to win and ENJOY YOUR GAME!

I'm in your corner,

 

Gina

 

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